The Netflix series 13 Reasons Why has sparked significant conversation since its debut, particularly among teenagers and parents. At Children’s Hospital Colorado, mental health professionals have expressed concerns regarding the show’s content and its potential impact on young viewers. It’s crucial to understand what 13 Reasons Why is about and why it has become a subject of discussion and caution.
13 Reasons Why centers around the story of Hannah Baker, a teenager who commits suicide. Before her death, Hannah records 13 audiotapes detailing the 13 reasons, or people, she believes contributed to her decision. Season one follows Clay Jensen, a classmate of Hannah’s, as he listens to these tapes and uncovers the events leading to her tragic choice.
Season two delves deeper into the aftermath of Hannah’s suicide and the experiences of other characters, introducing Polaroid photos as new clues related to sensitive issues such as rape and school shootings. While season three reportedly shifts focus away from suicide, it still explores mature themes like murder involving teenagers. The series’ intense portrayal of these difficult topics has resonated with many young people, especially given the increasing stress and pressures faced by today’s youth.
Today’s youth report experiencing higher stress levels than previous generations, citing concerns such as mass shootings, rising suicide rates, climate change, family separations, and sexual harassment. 13 Reasons Why directly addresses several of these stressors in a raw and unfiltered manner, capturing the attention of teenagers and mental health experts alike.
However, this unflinching depiction of sensitive subjects, particularly suicide, has raised alarms within the mental health community. Dr. Laura Anthony, a child psychologist at Children’s Colorado, expresses strong reservations about the show, stating, “With everything we know about the contagion effect of suicide, I just can’t believe this show is out there and available to our kids.”
The concept of suicide contagion is a serious concern. Research indicates that certain types of media portrayals of suicide can increase the risk of suicidal behavior in vulnerable individuals. 13 Reasons Why, with its detailed narrative and focus on the act of suicide, is considered by some experts as a potential contributor to this contagion effect. For individuals already struggling with suicidal thoughts, the show’s content could be triggering or even seen as a roadmap.
Tips for Discussing 13 Reasons Why with Teenagers
Despite the concerns, complete avoidance of 13 Reasons Why might not be realistic, especially given its popularity and accessibility. If your child or teenager is watching or intends to watch the series, experts at Children’s Hospital Colorado recommend proactive engagement and open communication.
Firstly, if you decide to allow your child to watch 13 Reasons Why, consider watching it with them. This allows for shared viewing and provides opportunities for immediate discussion about the challenging themes presented in each episode. After each episode, encourage your child to express their thoughts and feelings about the difficult subjects raised.
Secondly, advise against binge-watching the series. Research suggests that consuming intense content in large doses, particularly alone, can negatively impact mental well-being. Encourage your child to watch episodes at a moderate pace, allowing time for reflection and discussion.
It is also crucial to be aware of suicide risk warning signs. Familiarize yourself with these signs and take any indication of distress seriously. Remember that teenagers are often digitally adept and might access the show without your knowledge. Therefore, maintaining open lines of communication about their online activities and media consumption is essential.
Understanding the Reality of Suicide vs. the Show’s Portrayal
Season one of 13 Reasons Why presents some misconceptions about suicide. The idea of suicide as revenge, as portrayed in the show, is not reflective of reality. While Hannah’s tapes create a continued presence after her death within the narrative, this is a fictional element. Suicide is rarely motivated by revenge in real-life situations.
Individuals contemplating suicide are typically experiencing significant emotional distress and often struggling with underlying mental health conditions. Suicide often feels like the only way to escape unbearable pain. However, unlike Hannah’s portrayal, many individuals experiencing suicidal thoughts do not genuinely want to die; they are seeking an end to their suffering and are often looking for reasons to choose life. Many will subtly or overtly reach out for help.
Dr. Anthony acknowledges the show’s attempt to depict the character’s struggle and lack of support, but emphasizes a critical point: “in reality, help is available.” Teenagers facing trauma, mental health challenges, or suicidal thoughts can and do recover with appropriate support and intervention.
Talking to Your Children About Suicide and Mental Health
Initiating conversations about difficult topics, including suicide, can be challenging but is vital for your children’s well-being. If you find it difficult to start these conversations directly, consider indirect approaches. You might begin by asking if they have heard of 13 Reasons Why or if they know what it is about. Alternatively, you could inquire if they have heard peers at school discussing suicide or self-harm.
Dr. Anthony shares a personal approach, “I have always told my own kids that they can have their friends talk to me anytime about anything if they need help.” This offers a “back door” to open up conversations and create a safe space for discussion.
Knowing that someone cares and is willing to help can be a crucial factor in suicide prevention. Mental health challenges and suicidal thoughts are complex and lack simple solutions. However, with time, support, and professional help, young people can navigate these difficulties and recover. The first step is often opening up and talking about it.
What to Do If Someone Expresses Suicidal Thoughts
If someone confides in you about suicidal thoughts, it’s essential to respond with care and support. Dr. Anthony advises, “First and most importantly, stay with the person and listen to them carefully.” Avoid arguing, dismissing their feelings, or immediately offering solutions. Refrain from minimizing their pain by suggesting their experiences “aren’t as bad as they think.” If they are sharing suicidal thoughts, it signifies they are experiencing intense emotional pain.
Instead, focus on helping them process their feelings. Remind them that suicide is a permanent solution to what is often a temporary problem. Talking through their pain can help them gain perspective and see that their distress is not unending. The act of listening and talking itself can alleviate some of the burden.
If you believe someone is in immediate danger, seek professional help immediately. Contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline or reach out to mental health professionals. Emergency departments also provide emergency psychiatric services. For young people, if a friend discloses suicidal thoughts, it’s crucial not to carry this burden alone; seek help from a trusted adult immediately.
Open communication, awareness, and readily available mental health resources are vital in supporting young people and addressing the complex issue of suicide.
